Life is Not a Competition

Start of a race-WikipediaI believe life is not meant to be lived alone. But it’s also not, in my opinion, a race to collect the most “friends.” As writers, we’re told we need a platform, a social media presence, a long list of emails for our newsletter. It feels overwhelming – like I’m losing a scavenger hunt. Everyone else has collected more items, they’re more successful. They have far more Facebook “friends.”

But what God is teaching me (in baby steps) is that I’m not in competition with anyone. I’m path into woods - unsplashon my own path, traveling my own journey alongside others who are traveling their own journey. We get to do life together – encouraging each other when the path gets steep, offering support when we fall into a rut, cheering when our fellow travelers reach their goal. Because we don’t lose when they “win.”

Their success doesn’t mean there’s less success to be had by the rest of us. It can encourage us to refocus, to work harder on our own goals. We can choose to use their achievement to bolster our own. When we choose to do life with others, instead of racing against them, we’ll find the journey is more pleasant, even exciting. We hoist each other over the lumps and bumps, push each other toward the finish line, and celebrate when goals are reached.

Moms Group at Grandview-Jan 14I’ve been blessed with a group of six women I get to do life with, each successful in their own right. Two are nurses, two are teachers, one is newly retired from a long teaching career, and one works in sales compensation. We’ve raised kids together, and married off some of them. We’re starting to welcome grandchildren into the mix. We’re doing it together, side-by-side, arm-in-arm. They don’t understand my love of writing, but they’ve encouraged and cheered me on. I’d faint before sticking someone with a needle, but I love their compassion and desire to heal. To be a teacher, one needs to tolerate some chaos with a smile on their face. We have three in our midst who leave the rest of us in awe.

Family, friends, neighbors, coworkers – we can choose to see them as supporters or competitors, choose to cheer them on or undermine their efforts. Choose to help each other up the hill or push each other off the cliff.

Personally, I prefer walking life’s path beside other travelers. It’s just better.


About Stacy Monson

Stacy is an award-winning author and freelance writer. Shattered Image and Dance of Grace, Books 1 and 2 of the Chain of Lakes Series, are available on Amazon in print and ebook formats. Book 3 will release Spring of 2017. Past president and founder of MN-NICE, the Minnesota ACFW chapter, she is now the Area Director for Minnesota.
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5 Responses to Life is Not a Competition

  1. “When we choose to do life with others, instead of racing against them, we’ll find the journey is more pleasant, even exciting”. I agree!

    God’s been teaching me this exact lesson recently. Life is so much better when we don’t see our friends and family as competitors against each other but companions who are walking with each other to reach the same goal. Great post!


    • Stacy Monson says:

      I have a feeling this is going to be a life-long lesson for me, Anna! New adventures tend to bring out an initial bout of competitiveness, until I remember there’s room for all of us in life. 🙂


  2. Nancy darnall says:

    That was very beautifully said! My journey with you and the others is a blessing that so few have. I thank God every day for you and my other 6 angels.


  3. Well said my new-found friend, well said!! I am very grateful for you, and all the other’s I have been gifted with to share this crazy journey called LIFE.


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